The risks of losing touch with reality
What would you do if someone came up to you and asked, am I half way to Chicago yet?
If you’re like most people, you’d respond “where did you start?”
We must know not only our goal (vision) but also our starting point (current reality). Without that, you have no idea where you are in your journey to reach your goal.
My husband accidentally burned a 14-inch ring into our carpet. He was microwaving hay in a paper bag in an attempt to measure the moisture of the hay – an interesting story! DuPont was right – its carpet is fire resistant. Naturally, the carpet needed to be replaced.
While I was contemplating the flooring options, I put a throw rug over the spot. What was I doing? I was disguising reality. Without the ability to see current reality, I lost the creative drive and energy to fix the problem (my vision) and the damaged rug remained for nearly a year.
We do the same thing every time we pull a piece of furniture in front of a blemish on the wall. We close our eyes to reality. Without being able to clearly see reality, we lose the vision and the goal is never reached.
If you want to earn an extra $500 per month and are currently broke you must hold both images (reality and vision) clearly in your mind. Seeing yourself with $500 extra per month while simultaneously seeing yourself broke will help you find the creative drive and energy to find the solution. If you borrow money from your credit card in the meantime, you lose sight of reality and never solve your problem.
This is also the reason support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous work (AA). That is a group all focused on a common goal (being free from alcohol). Their program requires its members to keep two images clearly in their minds. Reality, I AM an alcoholic; and Vision, I choose a healthy lifestyle for myself.
Similarly, leaders who set ambitious goals for the future but fail to assign metrics (current reality versus desired goal) are destined to have their goals remain in the future.
When has losing touch with reality happened in your life? What excuses have you been using to explain why you can’t achieve your goals?
- Ro Crosbie is president of Tero International, a premier interpersonal skills and corporate training company.