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Just say no.

Today, we're going to talk about the power of "no."No

Now... just so you know... I'm a recovering perfectionist, so I know the thrill of saying "yes."

You perfectionists out there know what I'm talking about.

Here's a scenario:  Someone comes to you with a task and they really need help.  Maybe it's a volunteer position... a side project at work... or even a position on their softball team.  They let you know that they really really need you.

You already have too much on your plate... but you say "yes."

And... for a moment... it feels really good.  Doesn't it?  The person really appreciates the help.  You get to be the "go-to person."  As they walk away... they might even say, "I knew I could count on you.  You're the person everybody can always count on." 

Ahhh yes... it feels good.

But then... maybe 5 days... 5 hours... or 5 seconds later... the weight of your "yes" sets in.  It becomes one more thing piled on a growing stack of tasks.  One more thing on a mile-long to do list.

So... as a perfectionist... what do you do?  You work to get the job done.  Right?

The problem is... when we say "yes" to the wrong things, we have to say "no" to a lot of the right things. 

You have to sacrifice time on other important roles or time with important people... to get the job done... right?  Or... you have to call the person or send a painful e-mail to let them know you just can't get it done. 

And then, the thrill of the "yes" becomes the the pain of the "late no."  Have you felt it?

Okay... so let me ask a question.  What if you said "no" more often? 

I know.  I know.  It might be painful at first.  And... you may not get to always be seen as the "go-to" person all the time. 

But... let me ask a second question.  What would you get to say "yes" to, if you said "no" more often?

Maybe you'd be able to do a better job on a more important project.  Maybe you would even enjoy your work more.  Or... maybe you'd be able to have a relaxed dinner with your friends or family at the end of the day... because you'd know that you'd gotten the right things done in the right way.

Is it worth a try?  Author and speaker,Tim Sanders thinks so.  Check out his post on the power of no.

So... what is something you're going to say "no" to today?  Seriously... click on "comment" below... and let the world know about one thing that you'll say "no" to.

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I'll just say no to the NEXT group blog opportunity! I can quit anytime, honest!

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