You never know...

Danny Beyer is the vice president of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services. 

On March 21st I received an email that read:

“…Larry suggested I connect with you due to your vast network and your enthusiasm for expanding other people's networks. I am looking for a position in Iowa, particularly the Des Moines area and need to expand my network here.” 

If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, you’re probably aware that I never turn down a first meeting so I replied that I would be happy to get together.  We set a date for coffee at Panera on the following Monday.   

The conversation started off like most introductions. Where are you from? How did you get to where you are now? What do you like to do for fun? What are you doing professionally?  That last question was where everything changed. I quickly found out that my new acquaintance had a vast background and unique skills that Kabel Business Services needed. I told her more about Kabel and asked if she would be interested in interviewing. She said yes!

We brought her in to interview on Tuesday and by Friday she had accepted our offer. We now have a great new employee bringing a wealth of knowledge and skills that we were lacking, all because I accepted an introduction and had coffee with a stranger. 

The point really is you never know who you are going to meet or what they may bring to the table. I typically don’t have expectations of what will take place during a first meeting. I only expect to have a good conversation and meet someone interesting. It happens, more often than not, that I get much more than that. 

Keep meeting people and have conversations with no expectations. You never know what may come out of it.

- Danny Beyer is the vice president of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with StyleHe is also a professional speaker on networking.

You don't know until you know

You-don’t-know-what-you-knowDanny Beyer is the Director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services.

2015 was a fun year for me because of a unique resolution I made the first week of January. I decided to reach out to my social network and have one meeting a week with someone I was connected with but didn’t actually know. This included LinkedIn connections, Twitter followers, and Facebook friends. To say these meetings changed my outlook on life would be an understatement.  One of those coffees took place towards the end of October.

I had run into Josh Dreyer multiple times throughout the past couple of years. We attended a lot of the same networking functions, frequented non-profit events, and had a lot of mutual friends. We were friends on Facebook but had never had a meaningful conversation. I sent him a Facebook message and we agreed to get coffee at Panera the following week. 

Our conversation was pretty standard. Where are you from? How did you get to where you are now in life? What are trying to do in the community? What drives you, and how can we help each other?  We found we had a lot in common, even with him being a die-hard Hawkeye fan. Towards the end of the coffee, our conversation turned to how great and open a community Greater Des Moines is, how easy it is to get connected and to build real relationships. Then he said something that I still think about almost daily. 

“You don’t know until you know.”

We had been talking about networking the right way. We both had similar experiences when we first entered the professional community – attending networking events, handing out as many business cards as possible, and being overly salesy during the entire process. We both hated it and neither had any success “networking” in the traditional sense. So we changed our style.

We started having meaningful conversations. We stopped talking about work and really engaged with people. We went into events to actually meet people instead of to sell them something. Success quickly followed for both of us both professionally and personally. We didn’t know the right way to network until we ran out of options. 

If you’re not seeing the results you want through your network, try something new. Stop talking about work and really get to know the person you’re talking to. The work will follow as relationships build. Remember, “You don’t know until you know.”

B&W Headshot- Danny Beyer is the director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with StyleHe is also a professional speaker on networking.


Do you know what we used to call "networking?"

CoverDanny Beyer is the director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services

Earlier this year I released my first book, “The Ties that Bind:  Networking with Style” through BookPress Publishing. Since its release I have been asked numerous times at presentations and one-on-ones why I wrote a book.  Specifically a book on networking? I wish I could say I was smart enough to know what I was doing at the time but I can’t. In fact, the book started to take shape after one conversation with my father.  

I was sitting on the porch swing at my parents' house one afternoon last summer. My dad is a pretty black and white guy. He tells it like it is and doesn’t sugarcoat anything.  We were watching the sunset and I was talking about the success I was having with networking.

He asked a of couple questions: “What is networking?”  “What exactly do you do?”  “Why do you keep talking about it?”  I went on and on about my network, the personal and professional success I was having, and what I was expecting to happen over the upcoming year.

He took a drag on his cigarette.  I could tell he was thinking about his next comment. I sat in silence, waiting for a question. He grinned and I knew something good was about to happen. He looked me in the eyes and said, “Danny that all sounds good but kind of complicated.”

“What do you mean, Dad?” I asked.

He explained, “It all sounds fine and good but do you know what we called this 'networking' thing you’re talking about back in my day?”  I smiled, here it was.  “What Dad?” He paused and smiled again. “Talking to people…”

And there it was. Of course, he was right. Networking is nothing more than talking to people.

That’s why I wrote this book. I wanted to explain that networking is nothing more than talking to people and most people are inherently good at that. We’ve labeled it “networking” and we’ve created a stigma that only salespeople or individuals in suits are good at it. That’s just not the case. 

The next time you attend a networking event or have a social on the calendar think back to that porch swing. Networking is nothing more than talking to people. Go have a fun conversation and remember we were born to talk to each other. It’s that simple. 

B&W Headshot- Danny Beyer is the director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with StyleHe is also a professional speaker on networking.

Harnessing the #FF network

PartyDanny Beyer is the director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services

A little over a year ago I started to notice a trend on my Facebook feed.  Every Friday morning a dear friend of mine, Christopher Maharry, would post a picture of what looked like some deep fried blob of goodness.  Along with this picture was the hashtag #FF. Over the next weeks I tried to decipher what this image and #FF meant together. 

My curiosity eventually got the best of me and I texted Christopher for an explanation. “What does #FF mean?!  Fatty Friday? Fried Food? Tell me!”  He responded that is simply stood for “Fritter Friday” and the fried blob that was pictured was his weekly treat – an apple fritter. I asked if I could join him the following week. “Of course” was his reply. 

The next Friday we met at Donut Hut on Douglas and enjoyed one of the best apple fritters I have ever tasted. It was fried to perfection with a light center.  Just enough apple pieces that it held together without being too doughy. Dunked in some coffee, it was breakfast perfection.  Over the next months we met on and off almost every Friday to catch up and share in the fried delicacy that is an apple fritter.  

We started posting pictures on Facebook every Friday, declaring it Fritter Friday to the world. That’s when the unexpected happened: we started to garner a following. Different individuals from our social circles began attending and enjoying fritters with us. People asked for updates, times, and where they could get a fritter. Others posted pictures of themselves from other states, even other countries, enjoying a fritter on Friday mornings. 

Late in 2014, after a rousing conversation about halfway through our fritter, Christopher looked at me and said, “Hey, what are we doing with this?  We both have huge networks here in Des Moines and with Facebook. Let’s have an open house at my place and raise some money for a good cause.” It sounded just crazy enough to work. After all, who doesn’t enjoy fried food and raising money for charity?

In May, Christopher held the first ever “Fritter Friday Open House” at his home in Des Moines. People came from all over the city, some in cars, others on bikes, still others walked. There were decorations and fritter selfies. We had coffee and other drinks. In the end, he went through 250 apple fritters and was able to raise $2,000 for the Chrysalis Foundation in two short hours. 

I love this simple story because it shows the impact one person with an idea can have. All it took was a couple posts to Facebook and a willingness to do something out of the ordinary. All of us have the ability to tap our networks and do something for the greater good. Share something you enjoy with those around you. You never know when a simple conversation over drinks, or fritters, may turn in to something great. 

B&W Headshot- Danny Beyer is the director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with StyleHe is also a professional speaker on networking.


Are you genuine?

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    A few years ago I was attending a networking dinner. It was a typical event where everyone mingles for a happy hour and gradually takes a seat so the staff can take orders. I found myself sitting next to someone I didn’t know. We started the usual small talk, “Where are you from?”  “What do you do?” and so on.  It turned out he owned his own business in telephone lines. I tried asking some questions to get him to talk about what he did but the responses all seemed to be one-word answers.

    After 15 minutes I was bored and convinced that this person just couldn’t hold a conversation.  I turned to the person on my other side and promptly forgot everything I had been discussing prior.

    About six month later I found myself at another event with the same telephone line guy. We exchanged greetings and I made sure to sit at different table from him. One of my friends ended up sitting next to him. The evening went on and I occasionally glanced at their table. It struck me by how engaged she was in conversation with him. They were exchanging stories. She laughed. He laughed. It was completely opposite from the experience I had six months earlier. 

    The event ended and I rushed over to ask her how she did it. What did they talk about?  How did she get him to open up? Was he really that interesting? What did I do wrong? She looked at me and said, “Danny, everyone has a story. Everyone has something that makes them interesting. Everyone has something to teach or something I can learn. It’s my job to find that information.” That response changed my life.

    The biggest difference in her approach and mine was genuineness. She was genuinely interested in what the telephone guy was saying. I was trying to cover the basics, expecting him to just open up like a book. I wasn’t actually interested in what he was saying and he could tell. That’s why every question received the shortest answer possible.  She cared, I didn’t. She had a conversation and learned something. I got frustrated and gave up. 

    I followed up with telephone guy and asked for a one-on-one meeting the following week. We had a great conversation and I learned so much more about who he is and what he does. We've built a relationship and have done business together since that meeting.  Everyone has a story. Everyone has something they want to share. Something you can learn. It’s up to you to find that story and to have those great conversations. Be in the moment and be genuine.  

- Danny Beyer is the director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel

B&W HeadshotBusiness Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with StyleHe is also a professional speaker on networking.

Conversations on a plane

Danny Beyer is the Director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services


I recently had the opportunity to speak at a payroll convention in Phoenix, AZ on the power of selling through networking. 

It was my first speaking engagement outside of the state of Iowa and the first time I’ve felt nervous giving a presentation like this in a long time. 

Different thoughts ran through my mind as I boarded the plane Wednesday morning.  They were the same self-deprecating thoughts that made me question myself during my first networking event. 

“Would people enjoy the presentation?”
“Was I really qualified to do this?” 
“What should my opening story be?”

Then I took my seat next to Stacy.

Stacy and I started to chat about midway through the flight. 

We had each finished our book, taken a nap, and had nothing else to distract our minds as we drifted above the clouds. 

She asked me where I was headed. We talked about growing up in small towns east of Des Moines. We shared stories about our families, our hobbies, and compared experiences that only people who grew up in semi-rural Iowa can relate to.

Towards the end of the flight she asked me what I did for a living. 

I smiled and shared that I sold payroll. She gave me the same look the vast majority of the population does when I explain what I do. 

It’s a look of understanding that’s trying to hide the underlying confusion. I quickly offered some clarification, which helped make the situation more comfortable.  Then I explained that I was actually headed to Phoenix to speak about networking and building relationships.

This was much more interesting to her, and to me. 

Over the remaining thirty or so minutes we spoke about her role with a marketing and specialties business. She went into great detail about how her sales force works, what the great sales people do compared to the average ones.

We talked about the value of long-term client relationships and the power of building a brand. As the plane descended and the landing gears engaged she asked for my card.  It turned out she had a sales convention coming up and was beginning the process of finding a guest speaker to talk about networking.

As of this post I’m not sure if I’ll be hired to speak at Stacy’s convention but I can share that my nerves for the Phoenix speech evaporated as I left the plane.

That’s the power of networking.  Stacy and I made a real connection talking about things that mattered to each of us. 

We shared useful information instead of making small talk.  The next time you find yourself alone on a plane, waiting for friends at a coffee shop, or at a networking event try talking to someone new.

Talk about things that matter not just the weather.  You never know what connection, or opportunity, might happen next.

- Danny Beyer is the Director of Sales and Marketing for B&W HeadshotKabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with StyleHe is also a professional speaker on networking.

Breaking a brand

April 1 fell on a Wednesday this year. What does a guy who has built his brand on wearing a bow tie 6 days a week, especially on “Bow Tie Wednesday”, do when April Fool’s day falls on Wednesday?

He wears a regular necktie of course.

I woke up that morning and realized that it had been well over two years since the last time I wore a regular tie for an entire day.

I dug deep in the back of my closet, found a tie, pulled up a YouTube video to relearn how to tie it (yes, I had completely forgotten how to tie a necktie), and after some fumbling, got the thing around my neck with a decent looking knot.  In my mind it was just another fun and silly April Fool’s joke.

I quickly realized how much I was underestimating the impact my decision would make. 

My oldest daughter came out of her room, a sleepy haze still in her eyes, and gave me her usual morning smile. Then her expression changed.  She rubbed her eyes and blinked a couple times.

Tears started to well up as she choked out the words, “Daddy, what’s wrong? Where’s your bow tie?”  And the water works took over. I had to take off the tie just to get out of the house that morning. I brushed it off as an over the top reaction from a sensitive four-year-old who has no recollection of her dad in anything but a bow tie. Then I walked into Panera for a cup of coffee.

Barb Breeser, a good friend and mentor, was sitting in a side booth waiting for her first meeting of the day. I rounded the corner and greeted her. Her usual smile quickly disappeared as she noticed the tie.

“What are you doing?” she asked, the tone indicating the shock that had overcome her.  I explained my April Fool’s day ruse.

She grabbed her phone and asked if she could take a picture for Facebook.  I can still hear her words, “This is genius Danny.  It’s going to blow up, just wait and see.”  She posted the picture and my feed immediately began to react. 

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Reactions varied from anger, to surprise, to shock, to everything in between. A couple people asked if this was a sign of the approaching Armageddon.  Others, who realized what day it was, congratulated me on a job well done.  But it didn’t stop with social media.

People reacted everywhere I went that day, during meetings, on the street, and in my office. The necktie was so far from what people usually expected to see that they had to call me on it. 

This is the power of your personal brand and the expectations you set. We all have a personal brand thanks to the power of technology and communication. Once that brand has been established, through consistent behavior and creating perceptions, it’s very hard to go against it.

People get upset when they see a change or something that counters the established brand. They question it and try to justify the change. They are not afraid to voice their concerns and demand action be taken to rectify the conflict the change creates. 

This is why it is so essential to really think about the message you are conveying, and how it relates to your brand, whenever you’re engaging with people. 

The other insight I took from wearing a regular tie for a day is that changing a brand is hard.

Really hard. It’s uncomfortable and, at times, annoying. The tie kept getting in my way. 

It fell in my lunch plate, sat awkwardly on my desk while I was working, and got caught in my coat zipper. By the end of the day I just wanted to take the thing off because I was tired of dealing with the hassle. I walked in my house that night, tie undone, and vowed that it would be a long time before I ever wore a neck tie again. 

The next morning I put on my normal bow tie. My daughter smiled and hugged me.  “Welcome back daddy, I like your bow tie.”  Next time, I’ll give her reaction a little more consideration. 

B&W Headshot- Danny Beyer is the Director of Salss and Marketing for Kabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with StyleHe is also a professional speaker on networking.

What's in it for me?

BlogIn January I wrote a blog encouraging people to ask one new person a week how they could help them as part of a New Year’s resolution anyone could keep.  I quickly started getting feedback from individuals who were excited about the idea and couldn’t wait to put it to use.  I had multiple meetings with others over lunch or coffee to expand on the idea and what had inspired me to write the blog in the first place.  And then a third set of people emerged who questioned the idea, and my motivations, because they didn’t see a point. Why would anyone have coffee or get together with another person with no agenda or purpose? Did real people even do that?  Surely there had to be more to these meetings. There had to be some reason. Why would I meet with people if there wasn’t anything in it for me?

I did what I’ve always done when someone has emailed or called me with this question. I invited these individuals out for coffee to hear their story. Surprisingly, they all agreed.  The common threads of these conversations fell along three lines:

  1. What is really in it for me? There has to be a reason to meet otherwise the meeting is a waste of time and energy.
  2. Doesn't asking people how you can help them make it incredibly hard to do your day job or get anything done?
  3. Why would I meet with someone that I couldn’t do business with directly?

The first question is pretty easy for me to answer. No, there really isn’t anything in it for me on an initial meeting.  I really do just want to get to know the person sitting across from me. I want to know what they do for fun, what they are passionate about, and what makes them get out of bed each morning. Typically these discussions are much more meaningful, and more fun, than work conversations. They also allow me to have conversations that don’t happen when we stick to only discussing work. The first meeting, for me, is a better use of my time if I’m building trust vs. trying to sell something.

The second question typically takes some convincing because most people see helping others as a very time consuming, and labor intensive, process. Let me try to clarify.  Helping someone does not have to take a lot of time, money, or even energy.  It can be as easy as doing an email introduction, making a phone call, or passing along a great contact.

Most of the help that others require are not things that I can directly deliver, but I do know someone who can.  By making that introduction I am helping both the person in need and the person on the other end. Change your perception of helping others and it becomes much easier to do. 

The final point comes back to the old adage “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.”  I meet with people not to sell them my services, but to get to know them so they remember me when someone else may need what I sell.  The more people who know who I am the more opportunities present themselves for future business, both professional and personal.  And yes, it does work. 

Get out of your comfort zone and meet someone new this week. Have a meeting and don't worry about "what's in it for you." Talk about interesting things, what you do for fun, who your favorite comedian is, what your favorite restaurant is, what movie last made you cry, instead of talking about work.  Ask the other person how you can help them.  Enjoy the conversation.  You may be surprised how much fun it really is.   

B&W Headshot- Danny Beyer is the Director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with StyleHe is also a professional speaker on networking.

The idea prison

IdeaI was sitting in a marketing class the other night listening to the professor go on and on about innovation and creativity.  It’s a pretty popular topic in most of these classes and, while interesting, it can get a little old to hear about “the next big idea” or the “innovation cycle” for the hundredth time. Then, just as I was about to pull up my ESPN app so I could watch the Cyclone basketball game, he said something that caught my attention and kept it the rest of the night. 

He was sharing a story about the loss of innovation, about those ideas that never see the light of day, the ideas that get hidden, lost, or simply die.

“One of the biggest threats to innovation,” he explained, “is the average person’s fear to share his or her ideas.”  

The lecture continued with the professor introducing the concept of the idea prison. The average person may have a great, world changing, idea but fear keeps those ideas locked inside their head.  We don’t want to share our thoughts because we don’t want our ideas to be critiqued, to be judged, or to be torn apart. Instead of facing criticism we keep them locked up, safe and secure, inside our mind. 

This is why having a network of trusted friends, colleagues, and mentors is an important part to the innovation cycle.  We need that trusted circle so we can share ideas, get outside perspective, and help make our ideas better. Networking is a crucial part of innovation because no idea has ever been good enough to stand on its own. Every major innovation or creative moment takes a team of individuals to analyze, change, and see it through to completion.

The world is a different place than it was yesterday because of people taking the leap and sharing their ideas. Imagine what this world would look like if Henry Ford had kept the idea of the assembly line to himself or if Steve Jobs had decided that the iPhone was just another dumb idea. Don’t keep your ideas in prison. Find a trusted friend to share your thoughts, your dreams, and your world changing ideas with.  Take the criticism and help to make those ideas better.  Who knows, you may have the next ground breaking idea locked in your head right now.  Let it out!

B&W HeadshotDanny Beyer is the Director of Sales and Marketing for Kabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with Style. He is also a professional speaker on networking.

Fake it 'til you become it

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I recently published a book on networking called The Ties that Bind: Networking with Style. In the first chapter I tell the story of the first networking event I ever attended after taking my job as a payroll sales rep.  The experience was terrifying for me.  No matter how hard I tried, I simply could not bring myself to get out of the car and enter the hosting business. 

Thankfully, a stranger knocked on my car window and coaxed me out of my Taurus. I am confident that without that person inviting me in, I may have never attended that event or started down the journey that has led me to become the person I am today.

I learned two valuable lessons from that encounter. The first, always be kind to others and be willing to offer help. The second, which dawned on me after watching a profound Ted Talk by Amy Cuddy entitled, “Your body language shapes who you are,” is to fake it ‘til you make it or as she states, “fake it ‘til you become it.” [1]  This talk hit me because, as I sat behind my steering whee, I was questioning whether or not I was in the right career. Had I made the right choice? Was I really meant to be in sales? When that stranger knocked on my window I had a choice to make. I was either going to leave and look for another career or I was going to go to that event and fake my way through it. 

Thankfully I decided to go with option B  I faked my way through that first event and for many more events to follow.  Each new event brought about the same fears, the same questioning, and the same anxiety. I kept waiting for someone to call me out, to tell me I didn’t really belong and to see through my ruse. The amazing thing? It never happened, and as time went on I became more comfortable. The networking became easier. I no longer had those feelings and the anxiety almost completely disappeared. I had faked it long enough to become it. 

There are very few “natural networkers” or people who can network without feeling some sort of fear. With time, and some faking in the beginning, it does get easier. Get out of your comfort zone. Fake it ‘til you make it and eventually you will become it. 

B&W HeadshotDanny Beyer is a payroll sales executive for Kabel Business Services and author of The Ties that Bind:  Networking with Style.  He is also a professional speaker on networking.

A New Year's resolution you can keep

HelpDanny Beyer, a sales executive at Kabel Business Services, is a serial networker who often speaks about networking to groups.

It's that time of year again. The time when we all look back at the prior year and decide what we need to change or improve about ourselves in the upcoming twelve months. 

We vow that "this will be the year" we lose that extra 15 pounds, run Dam to Dam, write that memoir, or take that trip. During the first few weeks of January we stick to this resolution with the fortitude of Ralphie trying to get the Red Rider BB gun in "A Christmas Story". By the end of Febraury most of us have forgetton about the goals we set just a couple of months earlier. The year goes by and the cycle repeats itself. 

I think we can break this cycle this year because I have a resolution almost anyone can keep. It's so simple but the impact it will have on you, and others around you, will make it worth your time. It will help make our community a better place while also helping you in ways you can't imagine right now.  So, what is this resolution? I want everyone reading this blog to vow to ask the following question to at least one different person a week during 2015 - "How can I help you?" And then do whatever is in your power to help the person with his or her request. 

I started asking this question to every person I had coffee with or met during 2014. It's been amazing to hear what people need when they're finally given the opportunity to tell someone who will listen.  The requests have ranged from helping with fundraisers, to finding a babysitter, to listening for potential job openings. The best part of asking "How can I help you?" is the unlimited potential that resides on the other side of the question.  It also gives you the opportunity to be someone's hero. I have tried to help with any request given to the best of my ability with varying levels of success.  

It's also surprising what happens to you when you help someone else acheive a goal. Doors begin to open to opportunities you never knew existed. I've been able to speak to college campuses, develop classes, and raise tens of thousands of dollars for charities all because I asked others how I could help them. 

So, starting January 1, ask one person a week "How can I help you?" and then share your stories with me at  I'll share the best stories through this blog throughout 2015 so readers can see what differences are being made in our great community because of one simple question. Good luck and happy 2015 everyone!  Let's change the world, one person at a time. 

My 4-year-old is a better networker than me

IMG_1196Danny Beyer, a sales executive at Kabel Business Services, is a serial networker and often speaks about networking to groups.

One of the greatest things about having kids, especially little kids, are the life lessons they inadvertently reteach us.

We unlearn so many crucial skills in dealing with people as we are taught about political correctness or the history of underwater basket weaving in school. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for higher education and learning, my wife is a teacher after all.  However, most of the time the skills that people find the most difficult to learn (soft skills, people skills) are simply forgotten as all of this new information is presented. 

Don’t believe me? Sit back and watch a group of 4-year-olds. You’ll be amazed at how easy it is for them to meet new people, build quick bonds, and get to know someone with no actual effort on their part. 

Why is it so easy for kids to do this? I think it comes down to three simple things: 

  1. They smile, a lot. Kids are typically pretty happy and all they want to do is have fun. They play, they run, they tell ridiculous jokes that make no sense, and, most of all, they smile.They are happy to meet new people and are even happier when old friends return. Their smile is genuine and heartfelt. It’s impossible to be in a bad mood when the person you are with is constantly happy and smiling. 
  2. They notice the little things and are quick to compliment. My daughters notice when I get a haircut before anyone else and they tell me how nice it looks every time. All of the little things I take for granted, they notice. New socks get as much attention as if I just brought home a puppy. Their praise may be over the top but they mean every word.  
  3. They have a real curiosity about each person they meet. Young kids haven’t discovered the urge or desire to talk about themselves. They are much more interested in what everyone else around them is doing or saying to let their egos get in the way. And if they don’t understand something they are quick to ask “why” for clarification. The more they know about you, the better.

The next time you think networking isn’t for you or it’s too hard to meet new people, think back to that group of kids interacting on the playground. We all used to be really good at getting to know strangers until the world got in the way. We are all built to build relationships. Put a smile on your face, give a genuine compliment, and listen more than you talk.  It really is that simple. 

Social media is useless...

Danny Beyer, a sales executive at Kabel Business Services, is a serial networker and often speaks about networking to groups.

...without relationships or the opportunity to build relationships.  I’ve given multiple talks on Social-media-cube the benefits of being active on social media to audiences ranging from college students to seasoned professionals.  I can talk about personal branding, crafting the perfect tweet, or how many times to post to Facebook based on your audience.  I have had both personal and professional success on multiple platforms.  However, none of this would have been possible without the relationships I developed with the people on the other side of the computer screen. 

People want to do business with people.  They want to work with people they know, like, and trust.  The power of social media is the ability to connect with people in a new, and very personal, way.  The information shared on platforms like Facebook allows me to see who people really are.  It gives me, and anyone else connected to that individual, a glimpse into who that person is and what he or she enjoys.  It allows me to pass over the small talk and have a meaningful conversation centered on what that person is sharing.

I keep in touch with friends all over the country through social media.  It is so easy to communicate and keep up to date through the various platforms.  There have been times when a friend will come to town whom I haven’t seen in years but we still know everything the other is doing thanks to Facebook or Twitter.  We pick up right where we left off because we know how each other’s families are, how the job is going, and what exciting things are going on in each other’s lives.  This happens with professional relationships as well, thanks to the openness and personal side of a lot of the different platforms. 

Social media is not the answer or the end-all to building long-lasting and viable relationships.  It is a great tool to share ideas, meet new people, and connect with long lost friends.  Each platform is different and allows the user to customize his or her experience.  It also gives your followers the opportunity to see what you care about and who you are outside of regular business hours.  To most people, this person is just as important as the business person they usually see. 


Should I connect with you?

LinkedIn-Logo-2CNumerous times, I have either sent or received a blind LinkedIn connection request. These requests are sent when no prior relationship exists. Sometimes, they are people I want to connect with or struggled to contact. Sometimes, they are influencers in the community I want to get to know. Sometimes, I just like their profiles and find them interesting. Blind requests are one of the things I get questioned about the most regarding LinkedIn.

The question of connecting with someone you do not know is interesting because it depends on how you want to use the platform. Many sales people connect with anyone who sends a request because the more people they are connected to, the better. People in other careers are often more selective, usually only connecting with established relationships.

To decide who you should and should not connect with, figure out what you want the platform to do for you. Determine whether you want to keep your connections intimate or if you want to expand your influence and take a chance on individuals you do not know. Set some basic rules for how to deal with blind connections when they do come in.

My first rule is always connect to anyone within driving distance. If I can drive to you in less than a day, I will connect with you. By being in driving distance, I may get to meet you face to face.

My second rule is connect with anyone I find interesting after viewing his or her profile. If we have common hobbies, I connect. If we work in the same industry, I connect. If we studied the same things in school, I connect.

My final rule is try to meet all blind connections face to face at least once after we connect.

I like the final rule because it is another step in building real relationships instead of relying on online ones. I also like it because I am rarely turned down when I request a meeting after accepting a connection.

These meeting requests are done right in the LinkedIn messaging service, and I use the same dialog each time I set one up. “Thank you so much for connecting with me on LinkedIn. I noticed we have (specific detail) in common, and I would love to get together to learn more about you. Are you available for coffee next week?” This approach has led to long-term, beneficial relationships with people I may not have otherwise met.

The next time a blind connection comes through in your inbox, take a second before deleting it and go into the individual’s page. There is a reason they sent you a request. Maybe it is to sell you something or to expand the number of connections they have. More often than not though, the requests are made for nobler reasons.

Instead of denying the request, figure out if the stranger on the other end offers value. Schedule a meeting and turn that blind connection into an actual connection. You may be surprised by the results. 

Networking and introverts

Introvert-Career-FairDanny Beyer, a sales executive at Kabel Business Services, is a serial networker and often speaks about networking to groups.

The title of this blog will probably come as a shock to those who know me because I am the farthest thing from an introvert by the standard definition.  I get a lot of my energy from being around people and I generally enjoy group settings.  I also have a basic belief that anyone can network and most of us are networking, or relying on our network in some fashion, all of the time.  So the premise that networking doesn’t work for introverts, or even more forceful – can’t work for introverts, bothers me.  It’s the reason I read over a dozen articles on networking for introverts and why I decided to write this post.  

Many of the tips I discovered fit within the framework that I describe as good networking but three stood out in my readings. 

  1. Build real relationships with one-on-one interaction:  Most networking events can be intimidating due to the sheer size of attendees.  I remember being terrified of my first larger event because hundreds of strangers would be in the same room with me.  The event came and instead of trying to meet everyone in the room I focused my attention on finding one interesting person with whom I could have a truly meaningful conversation and schedule a follow-up meeting.  It happened to be the first person I met and it made the entire event much more enjoyable.  That one-on-one time proved beneficial and created a relationship I value to this day.
  2. Ask questions:  Allow the person you’re talking with to do most of the talking by asking questions.  This goes with a previous blog I wrote about finding people’s stories.  By asking questions we allow the other person to talk about something he loves more than anything else – himself.  
  3. Allow yourself time to recharge:  I love this point because I think it affects almost anyone no matter how introverted or extroverted they are.  I always try to schedule down time after an event to simply be alone for a while and reflect on the event or refocus on the next part of my day. Don’t be afraid to allow yourself some down time and don’t overschedule yourself. Being a good networker doesn’t mean you have to attend every event. 

Additional resources can be found at the end of this article.  What do you think?  Are there tips that are more important than these three to networking as an introvert?  Share your thoughts in the comments!



Are business cards dead?

Blank-business-card01Danny Beyer, a sales executive at Kabel Business Services, is a serial networker and often speaks about networking to groups.

Believe it or not, in this age of high technology, smart phones, LinkedIn, Facebook, and hundreds of other apps, the business card is still alive and well.  It is still a universally accepted tool that allows for quick information sharing with little to no pressure.  I will admit that I typically only use the business card to get the contact information into my database or connect with the individual on LinkedIn but without it this task would be a lot harder.  The business card is succinct, it is simple, and it allows for a quick exchange of information. 

I have read dozens of articles from influencers in various industries explaining how they no longer use business cards because they rely on the new connection to have one.  They will ask for a card and then email all relevant contact information to the person they met.  I have been guilty of this myself when I forget to bring cards to an event.  I do not like this approach because there have been countless instances when the person I met did not have a card.  I went ahead and gave them my card and asked for an email with their contact information.  The email never came.  A few weeks would go by and I would see them again and ask about getting their email.  Time and time again I experience the same reaction.  A sheepish smile followed by an apology for forgetting.  “I’ve been so busy, I must have forgotten.” 

The fact is we're all busy.  Why leave it up to chance that the new connection will send that email they promised?  Why not have a card to ensure that follow up calls or meetings can happen without a lot of added pressure or waiting for an email that may or may not come?  The business card is an inexpensive extension of your personal branding and marketing.  It is also one of the easiest tools to encourage follow up appointments and ensure that the time spent networking is valuable.

I still give out business cards without receiving them all of the time.  They may end up in the trash but they also may result in a great appointment.  One example – I happened to enter a CPAs office one hot afternoon during a busy day of cold calling.  It was the middle of summer and the CPA was working on tax returns for customers he had filed extensions for earlier in the year.  I apologized for bothering him while he was busy.  He smiled and said he appreciated the break.  We talked briefly on how his business was doing and I gave him a brief overview of the company I was working for.  Five minutes went by and he explained that he had better get back to work.  I thanked him for his time, gave him my card and left the building. 

Two weeks later my phone rang.  It was the same CPA, whom I had met for five minutes, passing on one of his clients for my services. Since that time he has sent me over ten referrals, resulting in business totalling more than $30,000 for my business.  He had no other way to contact me besides my card and I never received his contact information before we worked on the first client together. Imagine the outcome had I not been carrying cards that day. 

In the end, it all comes down to making sure you have collected some type of way to follow up and meet with the new connection after the event has concluded.  A business card is typically the easiest way to achieve this goal and can be received simply by asking for it.  As times change and we continue to rely more and more on digital communication, be willing to adapt and offer to connect however is easiest for your new connection.  Get the other person’s number and be sure to use it.


Try something new

Keep-calm-and-meet-new-people-9It is incredibly easy to become stagnant at networking.  It is easy to attend the same functions, put on by the same organizations and continue to shake the same hands, month after month and year after year. We become comfortable because, after some time, we know most of the people in the room and the conversations are easy.  Relationships have been built and the nerves of meeting new people have worn off.

Do not fall into this trap.

I try to attend at least one new event each quarter where I may only know one or two of the attendees.  This forces me to be on my toes and to meet new people, which helps to expand my network.  It also ensures that I will continue to meet individuals who may add value to the people I already know.  By attending new events and meeting new people I never get completely comfortable and complacent in my networking efforts. 

New events are not hard to come by.  Hundreds of organizations are putting on networking events all of the time.  It simply takes a little effort to find a new function or the recommendation of a good friend.  One such recommendation came when a close friend was going through a leadership program.  He invited me to the kickoff party for their class project - a massive fundraiser to help a local nonprofit with their strategic plan. 

Through the course of the night I met many new individuals of various backgrounds who were in completely different circles than the ones I typically associate with. Towards the end of the evening I was introduced to the executive director of the nonprofit.  We hit it off and scheduled a coffee for the following week.  During our coffee she asked if I would be willing to serve on their advisory committee, a group of individuals who would help fundraise and work with the board of directors to further the nonprofit’s cause.  I jumped at the opportunity.

The appointment to the advisory committee of Amanda the Panda has allowed me to help many individuals who are grieving the loss of someone close to them in the community I call home.  I have seen this organization touch so many people and help them through one of the hardest times in anyone’s life.  It has also allowed me to connect with a whole new group of individuals and build friendships with people I would have never met if not for that event. 

Do not become complacent by attending the same events.  Meet new people and get out of your comfort zone once in a while.  Find a new event to try or sample what another group is doing.  This will allow you to continue to grow you network and expand your influence.  After all, you never know what other opportunities may exist.

Good networking is a lot like wearing a bow tie

Bow tieDanny Beyer, a sales executive at Kabel Business Services, is a serial networker and often speaks about networking to groups.

Good networking is a lot like wearing a bow tie.  Hear me out here. When it comes down to it, good networking involves three crucial steps. The same can be said for wearing a bow tie. 

Step one:  Patience.  When I first started networking, it took almost a year to see the fruits of my labor. I can still remember the first deal I closed from networking and the rush it gave me to know that I'd built enough trust with someone for them to recommend me to a friend.  It was a small deal but it was my deal.  Similarly, a bow tie takes a lot of patience. The first time I bought one I stood in Younkers with a very close friend for almost an hour replaying a YouTube clip over and over until I got the thing tied around my neck. Looking back on it now, it was really a terrible tie job but I got it done. Now I can tie a bow tie in less than thirty seconds and I can rely on my network for almost any need that arises. 

Step two:  Getting over nerves.  Let’s face it, there are very few people who can honestly say they enjoy walking into a room of strangers and meeting new people.  In fact, public speaking outranks death as most people’s No. 1 fear. Networking is nerve-racking, even for most seasoned pros. Wearing a bow tie in public for the first time triggers those same nerves. The easiest way to get over them? Dive in headfirst and don’t look back.  Take the risk, walk up to a stranger and say hi. Wear that bow tie with pride for the entire world to see. 

Step three:  Realizing both get easier with time. As I mentioned in the first step, tying a bow tie has gotten pretty easy. The same can be said, albeit to a lesser extent, for networking. I’m still more nervous networking than I do tying a bow tie or wearing it in public, but it has gotten easier. The simple fact is everything will get easier with practice.  I’ve learned to suppress the nerves, or ignore them all together, because I now realize that most people attending an event are just as nervous as I am. 

There you have it, how good networking is like wearing a bow tie. Sure it’s a stretch but just remember with a little patience, some practice, and by diving in headfirst anyone can learn to tie a bow tie or be great at networking.

The written word

Thank youDanny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

A random stranger sent me an email in late 2012 asking for an opportunity to take me
to coffee. He wanted to connect and get to know me as well as share about his business. He also explained how he was newer to town and really trying to figure out how to connect with people. I happily agreed to meet him. We had a great discussion about his goals and dreams, what he did for a living, and how I could help him get more involved in the community. He asked me all the right questions and I left feeling like I had made a great new connection. I made a note to follow up with him a couple months later to see how his progress was going. 

Two days later I strolled into my office and saw a little white envelope sitting in my mail slot. I do not know about you, but I love getting mail. It is almost like Christmas morning every time I get a new letter. I cannot wait to rip it open and see what surprise rests inside. To say I was excited is a mild understatement. I rushed over and saw that the envelope was from the gentleman I had coffee with two days prior. My curiosity peaked as I opened it up and found a hand written thank you card inside. 

The card was nothing spectacular, just a simple printed “thank you” across the front. Inside the card he had taken the time to hand write a of couple sentences thanking me for my time and explaining how he was planning on implementing some of the things we had discussed. He concluded by thanking me one more time and emphasizing that he was excited for the next opportunity for us to connect. It was wonderful.

In this over connected world, it is so easy to make contact with people. My new connection could have just as easily sent me an email, tweet, text, or countless other digital messages which would have taken all of thirty seconds to compose and send. Instead, he took the time from his busy schedule to craft a hand written letter of thanks and that letter had an immediate impact on me and my day. It showed a genuineness that is often missing from most of today’s social interactions. It also made him stand out among a sea of emails. Here was someone different, someone who really cared about building relationships. 

I have tried to send a thank you card after every meeting I have since receiving that note in 2012. The meeting does not have to be business-related in order to justify the time to write a thank you note. A simple cup of coffee with a new connection, reconnecting with an old friend, or checking in with a business relationship all warrant thank you notes. They are just simple pieces of paper but they really do make an immediate impact on those that receive them. They show that you care, that you are not too busy to really let someone know how much your appreciate them, and that you want to build a long-term relationships with them.  

To eat or not to eat?

FoodDanny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

Most networking events will have some sort of food and beverage provided. The food can range from cheese and vegetable trays to full flung heavy hor d'oeuvres and everything in between. The beverages could include water, soda, wine and beer. It is the intention of the host for those attending to enjoy these refreshments.  They can be delicious and enticing. They can also be disastrous if not given proper respect.

I once attended an event with a full bar and full spread of some of the best food I have ever experienced while networking. I had done my research and knew some very influential individuals would be attending that I wanted to meet. They had not yet arrived so I piled up my appetizer plate with shrimp, meatballs, humus, and more. It was all delicious and I made sure to compliment the host on her taste. Everything was going well until I accidently bumped into the back of someone else attending and a meat ball rolled off of my plate and down the center of my white dress shirt. There is not a Tide Stick large enough to undo that kind of damage. Needless to say I did not meet the people I had hoped to as I hurriedly left the room to change. 

Another example happened shortly after that event. A friend and I were attending an after work social. We had both left the office early that afternoon to arrive at the event about fifteen minutes early. People began to arrive and we each grabbed a beer and made our way around the room. He had grabbed a plate of food and was standing in the corner when a lady walked up to him and introduced herself. He fumbled with the plate, trying to find a place to set it down, and as he was bending down to put it on a nearby ledge he tipped his beer down the front of the her blouse. I have never seen that particular shade of red on a person’s face before as he apologized again and again. She was very calm as she tried to sop up the beer from her shirt. They both left shortly after the incident, him out of embarrassment and her to change clothes. 

The food and drink at an event is typically a highlight. The host has gone to a lot of trouble putting in time and money to provide whatever they deem appropriate. It would be somewhat rude not to partake, but how to navigate a room, meet new people, and enjoy refreshments can be tricky. The best piece of advice I ever received on managing this – arrive early.

Arriving early, even five minutes early, can allow you the opportunity to enjoy some of the food and drink without the worry of how to shake hands, make small talk with a mouth full of food, or where to put finished plates and cups. It also gives you first choice at most of the items provided. Additional advantages to arriving early include being able to check out the name tags to see who else is attending, meeting the host and getting good quality time with him or her before other guests arrive, and the opportunity to talk with those who have had the same idea.

Another way to save yourself the hassle of trying to figure out what to do with a cup or plate is to only partake of one or the other at any given time. Instead of loading up a plate with food and grabbing something to drink, do one or the other. This will allow for an open hand to shake hands and also makes it much easier to navigate a room. Always keep one hand free because you never know when it may be needed.

The final pointer is to always enjoy in moderation. No one likes the person who has had one drink too many or walks around with a food plate piled to overflowing with food. The first impression is often the impression that sticks when meeting people for the first time. The food and drink provided by the host is meant to be enjoyed, so go ahead and enjoy it. At the same time, be sure to know your limits.

The art of the follow-up: We're not dating...

Follow upDanny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

There is no point to networking without the follow-up. It's the most important aspect of the entire process and it's something that most of us tend to mess up. I want to be absolutely clear right now - networking is not dating. There is no 24 or 48 hour rule, no guideline about who should call first, no risk of sounding desperate with an immediate meeting request. In short, networking is typically about getting things done. The only way to do that is to follow-up.  

As I wrote in my last blog, I typically try to set at least one follow-up meeting at each event I attend. It's pretty easy because all of us tend to carry our calendar in our pockets through our smart phones. If this isn't your style don't be afraid to connect or email the person you'd like to meet as soon as you get back to your office. It's usually easier to set appointments with people you've just met because you're still fresh on their mind.  

The final piece is being persistent. Don't give up after one email or one voicemail message. There have been multiple times that I've had to email or call a person more than 10 times to set an appointment. When I finally got the person on the phone I apologized for leaving so many messages. Their response kind of surprised me - "No need to apologize. I kept meaning to call you back but things kept coming up. Thank you for the follow-up because I really did want to have this meeting." They thanked me for my persistence.  

Getting good at following-up doesn't take an overly complicated calendar or call strategy. It takes the willingness to be persistent and a desire to truly connect with people. Always remember that without a good follow-up plan, there is no point to attending all of those networking events. After all, I just want to go out for a cup of coffee, not on a date.  

Meetings are better than cards

470Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

When I first started building my professional network I used something called the "shotgun" approach.  

The rules were simple. Put fifteen business cards in a shirt or suit pocket and stay at the event until all fifteen cards were gone. The additional challenge was to try and collect as close to fifteen cards from other people attending the event as possible. The event was deemed a "success" by getting rid of all of my cards and collecting those of others. Any count over 10 was a good use of time. Any count under five and the event was a complete waste of time, or so I was taught.  

It was easy for me to approach people and trade cards. I happily came back to my office each afternoon with a stack of business card and carefully entered them into my database. At the end of my first month I marveled at the collection of business cards and the "success" I had with networking. But there was one problem. Sure, I had a great stack of cards and hundreds of individuals in my database, but I had no sales. I had no meetings. I had no prospects. I had no relationships.

That's when I realized that shotgun networking simply wasn't going to work for me.  

The next event I attended I made it a point to meet one person that I could set a meeting with before I left the event. I was apprehensive and a little nervous because up to that point my entire strategy had focused on getting in and out of conversations as quickly as possible. Now I had to sustain conversations and ask for a meeting before entertaining a new contact. To my surprise, it was easier than I thought. The first person I talked to agreed to have coffee with me the next day. Turns out people really do want to connect and get to know others. Who knew?

Since that time I've had hundreds of meetings scheduled during networking events, some of which have ended in business and others that haven't.  

I challenge any business card collectors or "shotgun" networkers out there to give this approach a try. Try to meet someone and set a follow-up meeting during the event. In the end it's a lot more fun to actually connect with people than stare a desk full of business cards.

5 Things to get more out of LinkedIn now

Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

LinkedIn is one of the most useful networking tools currently available as a “social media” platform. It allows user to connect professionally, share great content, and generate business. Unfortunately, it is also very underutilized. I’ve given several talks to students and professionals about the power of social media. It seems like most people have Facebook and Twitter figured out but LinkedIn is a different story. Here are five quick tips anyone can do to start seeing real value from their LinkedIn profile.

  1. Make sure the email address associated with the account is up to date: LinkedIn uses that email address to communicate when new messages are received, when connection requests have been sent, and when group conversations are happening. There will be no communication if the email address on record is from an old job or an AOL account that doesn’t get attention anymore.
  2. Use the “Recommended for You” section of the profile editor to add valuable content to your profile: The recommended for you piece is a wizard that forces users to enter information that will complete their profile. It covers things like education, work experience, non-profit volunteering, certifications, special projects, and more. Remember, the more information you provide on your LinkedIn profile the easier it is for others to find you and your services.
  3. Find great content on Pulse: Pulse is LinkedIn’s news and headlines channel. It allows users to customize the news the want to see based on hobbies, professions, and interests. The content and articles that are available through Pulse are from industry leaders. It’s a free way to keep up on current trends both professionally and personally.
  4. Use the “inshare” button to share content outside of Linkedin to your page:  The inshare button is the same things as the “like” button or “share” button for Facebook. When you read an interesting article share it to your LinkedIn page by simply clicking the inshare button. By sharing great content you provide valuable resources to your network and position yourself as an expert in the industry. 
  5. Connect with weak or lost connections with the messaging service: LinkedIn provides a fantastic messaging service that people feel compelled to respond to. I have had a 100% success rate when using the messaging service through LinkedIn. It has more clout and attracts more attention than traditional emails or other forms of digital communication. 

These tips can be implemented is as little as five minutes and results can be instant. Try making some new connections through LinkedIn today to grow your professional network and expand your influence.

Get over being nice

Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

A little over two years ago, Scott Siepker made a splash when his YouTube video, Iowa Nice, went viral. It was a scathing rant to all of those people who assumed Iowa was simply a flyover state good for nothing more than producing pork and corn. I remembered laughing so hard I cried, feeling a deep sense of pride in my home state, and quickly forwarding it on to about a dozen people. The video showed a new side of Iowa while hitting home the message that yes, we are nice.

While I will never knock someone for being nice, there is a time when one can be “too nice.” Over and over I hear people tell me that they don’t want to ask favors of their connections or seek help because they don’t want others to feel they’re using them. We don’t want to come off salesy, or conceited, or self-serving. In short, we want to be nice.

My best piece of advice – get over it. People genuinely want to help and the only way they can do that is if we let them know what we want. We have to share our goals, our dreams, and let others know how they can help make those dreams a reality. If you suffer from being too nice think of it like this: Imagine if a friend came to you and asked for the same favor you’re too nervous to talk to them about. Would you assist in any way you could? If the answer is yes than you should feel comfortable asking your friend to help. It really is that simple.

A network, both professionally and personally, really can help all of us achieve our dreams and desires, no matter how large or small. In the end it all comes down to sharing those desires with anyone who will listen. The more people who know what you want the better your chances are for success. Start sharing those dreams and get over being too nice. After all, we’re Iowans, according to YouTube we’re already nice enough.  

Winning the networking race

Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

In 2012, I ran and completed the Des Moines Marathon (don’t look up my time it’s kind of embarrassing.) My goal for that race wasn’t to come in first for my age division or even finish in the top 50; it was simply to finish. The race itself was brutal and exhausting, but I never would have been able to finish without the training. Those 12 weeks of running helped condition and tone my muscles and cardiovascular system to enable me to complete that run. I had to be willing to put in the time in order to achieve the end result.

There are a lot of similarities between completing a marathon and building a solid network. For starters, both take time. People continually share stories about how networking just doesn’t work for them. When I ask how long they’ve been networking I generally hear anything from a few weeks to a couple months. Most people want instant gratification and when they don’t see a return immediately they give up. The fact is a good network takes time to build. New connections need time and positive experiences to develop trust and refer business, just like human legs need time to adjust to long distance running.

Along with time, both activities require effort and follow through. Around the sixth week of marathon training I was ready to throw in the towel. The miles were piling up and my body was breaking down. At one point I simply wanted to give up. The same can be said for building a network. There are numerous times when I don’t feel like attending an event or meeting new people. It’s okay to take a day off now and again, as long as it stays at just a day or two. Relationships need to be fostered in order to grow and that can only be accomplished through effort and follow through by both parties.

Finally, both marathons and good networks start with that first step. No one ever completed a race from their couch just like no one built a great network sitting in their car or office. That first step doesn’t have to be a 10k or an event with 300+ people. It’s OK to start off small and go a lap around the block as long as you’re trying something new and giving yourself the opportunity to meet new people. I believe the following quote holds true whether you’re in to running or not –

“No matter how slow you go, you’re still lapping everyone on the couch.” – unknown

So, who are you going to lap today?

Networking tips and tricks - Tip 4: Save business for the end

Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

When I first started building my professional network I had one goal in mind – sell something.  Every interaction I had was dictated by the desire to sell payroll services to the person I was talking to directly or to someone they knew. The process was always the same: Tell them how great Kabel is, share all of the wonderful payroll knowledge I had obtained through training sessions and experience, then try and close a deal or get to a decision maker. The ABCs of selling – Always Be Closing, right? Wrong.

I quickly realized that people were not listening to me. They didn’t care about my great payroll service or the fact that we could save them money. Most of the time the person I was talking with wasn’t even the main decision maker anyway. Their eyes glossed over, they nodded their heads, and their mind wandered to their next meeting or what was for supper that evening. I was getting nowhere, fast. That’s when I changed my entire strategy and the sales door swung open.

The big change? I stopped talking about business. I started getting to know the person I was actually talking to. What they did for fun, where their kids went to school, how they spent their weekends, where they liked to eat, how many brothers or sisters they had – the stuff that truly matters to people. As soon as I put business at the end of the conversation, and made the meeting about the person I was actually talking to, business started to come my way.

So stop talking so much about business. Instead, get to know the person in front of you. The business will come. 

Networking tips and tricks - Tip 3: Leaving a conversation

Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

I had the opportunity to lead a Networking 101 seminar for YPC a couple of weeks ago. During that event we covered a lot of topics. The most popular seemed to be the tips on how to exit a conversation. There was great feedback immediately following the event and I even received a couple emails mentioning how people have used these tips in the past week. Here’s a brief synopsis of what was covered. 

  • Use drinks to your advantage - it’s pretty simple. Drinks need refilled when they’re empty. When I find myself in the middle of a conversation that is either unproductive or needs to end, I simply excuse myself to refill my drink. The other party is free to join you in your refill or can continue networking.  
  • Introduce a useful connection – as the conversation progresses and reaches a natural ending, an easy transition is to introduce a useful connection or friend. I’m not recommending putting a friend in a situation you’re not enjoying, I’m recommending only introducing someone if it makes sense both parties meet. For example:  I would introduce a mortgage banker to a real estate agent I was talking to if the conversation was at a close but we couldn’t figure out how to end it. 
  • Do them the favor of ending the conversation – this is my personal favorite.  When a conversation is coming to a close I will use the following dialogue: “It was so nice to meet you this evening. I don’t want to monopolize all of your time tonight and I know you want to make other conversations. Let’s connect later. Thank you so much for your time and happy connecting!” This allows the other person to feel good about the meeting while ending the conversation on a high note.

The purpose of these tips is to make the end of the conversation as positive as possible. This way the relationship can continue and the opportunity for future conversations remains strong. Leave the other party feeling good and make sure to follow up when the conversation can truly be used to build a long term relationship.

Networking tips and tricks - Tip 2: Find people’s stories

Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

I had the opportunity to go through Dale Carnegie when I was working at Hy-Vee. Up until that class I had always found it difficult to engage with strangers and make small talk. In fact, I hated it. Discussing the weather or the latest news headline always seemed so shallow. The best lesson I received from that entire course was the fact that everyone has a story to tell. The easiest to way to connect with people – find that story.

This goes hand in hand with my last blog about asking others what they’re passionate about. The next step is to listen and actively engage in whatever turn the conversation takes. Once someone starts telling their story, they must become the most important person in the room, no matter who walks in the door. It is only by making them the center point that you will truly engage in the current conversation and ask the questions that will continue the story.

The thing that I’ve realized over the years is that everyone, yes everyone, has an interesting story to tell. It’s finding that story that makes someone a great conversationalist. We all have our favorite vacation memory, best meal, favorite drink, or intriguing hobby. We’re also really good at telling that story to whoever is willing to listen. By sharing this passion, we develop a deeper connection and better relationship that ultimately builds trust. 

The next time you’re at a networking event and really not in the mood to be there, try finding a person’s story. We all have a great story to tell, if only someone would listen.

-Danny Beyer

Networking tips and tricks

Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

Over the upcoming weeks, I’ll be sharing some insights on successful networking. These tips and tricks are things I’ve observed others do or have found useful in my own endeavors. Some topics will cover questions I’m routinely asked by people new to networking or people trying to feel more comfortable with it.  Remember, networking isn’t a science, and everyone has their own unique take on how to do it well. These are simply items that I’ve found useful over the years. 

Tip 1:  How to enter a conversation or do an introduction

This question has been posed multiple times: “I’m at an event or a party and only know the person I came with. How do I introduce myself or break into a conversation with people I don’t know?” This is one of the most intimidating moments of networking because of a couple different factors. 1. We don’t want to come off as abrasive or rude by interrupting a conversation. 2. What do we talk about after the introduction is made?

The simple answer is to always remember the surroundings. Most people attending networking events expect to be interrupted and are hoping to meet new people. The other secret – they’re probably just as nervous as you are. The easiest way to enter a conversation is to simply introduce yourself and then have at least one to two conversation starters ready to go.  Some common conversation starters include:

-          Talking about the event space or location. This is especially useful at fundraising events or community support events.

-          Asking why they’re attending the event, what they hope to get out of it.

-          Asking the usual, “What do you do for a living?”

-          My personal favorite, “What are you passionate about?”

I enjoy the “passionate” question because it gives the other person an opportunity to share about something they truly care about. It lets them set the stage by either talking about a professional topic or personal topic. Always try to avoid yes/no style questions that don’t require much follow up. Remember, the broader the question is the more opportunity the new acquaintance has to answer as they see fit and continue the conversation.  

Stay tuned in coming weeks for more tips.

-Danny Beyer

Meet new blogger Danny Beyer

Danny Beyer is a sales executive at Kabel Business Services. He is a serial networker and often speaks about networking tips to groups in the community.

A good network takes time to build and grow. When I moved to Des Moines with my wife in Danny Beyer2008, I didn’t know anyone besides her and her immediate family. I took an office job and was pretty content with the 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. hours and a Monday through Friday work routine. That all changed in August that year when a companywide meeting was called and we were all handed our termination paperwork. I found myself without a job and without many prospects. I resolved to never be in that situation again. 

My first sales job started with Kabel Business Service, a local payroll provider, a year later.  I was instructed that cold-calling would get me through my first year but that building a solid referral base would make the following years much easier. Not being a big fan of cold calling, I got to work contacting bankers and CPAs and really anyone who would listen to me tell my story of business development. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the groundwork was being laid for the network I now enjoy today. 

Through the next years I continued to meet people. I never said no to a cup of a coffee or a chance to connect with someone new. Everyone had an interesting story to tell whether it involved work or something personal. We shared dreams, successes, and failures. I’ve watched people’s careers take off and learned from veterans who enjoy sharing their wisdom. We’ve let our kids play together, celebrated births and mourned deaths. 

This is why I network and why I try to meet someone new every day. Networking is more than trying to close deals or chasing the next sale. Networking is building long-term partnerships and business relationships that benefit both parties. It involves not being afraid to pick up the phone and ask for a favor and expecting the phone to ring in return. Sometimes those relationships can turn personal, and lasting friendships form. In fact, some of my closest friends have come from the various network groups I currently belong to or belonged to in the past.

This blog will be a collection of stories from my past five years of building my professional and personal network. I’ll share how I helped create a nonprofit event that raised more than $7,000 with a couple of phone calls and coffee meetings. How I helped collaborate with two other young professional groups to pull off the first ever YP Leaders Symposium. I’ll also share the mistakes and tips/tricks I’ve learned through navigating hundreds of chamber and networking events. 

I simply love to connect with people, to hear their stories and learn about what makes them tick. I’d love to hear your story too. Let me know if you’d like to get coffee and connect.

-Danny Beyer

Networking on social media

Katie Stocking is the owner of Happy Medium LLC.

It’s practically impossible to go a full day without someone telling you how busy they are right now. Although that is somewhat annoying, it probably is also very true. I know for myself I would, of course, love to have more time for personal hobbies and interests, but I would also like to have more time for my business goals. One of those goals is networking. Since we basically live on all social media platforms here at Happy Medium, I thought it would probably be best to combine the two and make a go of it.

Here are my tips for networking on social media:

Use the appropriate platforms: For example, if you’re a photographer – using LinkedIn to network might be good – but wouldn’t Instagram or Facebook be even better? You’re a visual company, why not use your best marketing tool, your work, to get business? Find the right fit and you’ll find the right customers.

Be honest: I get a couple of LinkedIn messages every day asking me to coffee “to learn more about my business and see how they can help me get more work” – when usually what happens is you go to coffee and they spend the whole time pitching their own services. (Not all the time of course, but often.) Then you don’t want to go the next time when it’s a legitimate lead and you might miss out. So if you decide to do networking by reaching out to people you don’t know – just be honest about your intentions. Then you kick off the conversation with everyone understanding the expectations and nobody feeling like they were misled.

Set a goal: I try to reach out to at least two people a week via social media. It’s pretty easy to do because it can be on your schedule. Whether it’s participating in groups on LinkedIn/Facebook, tweeting with other industry professionals or reaching out to people you’d really like to get in front of, anything works – just two a week will probably get you pretty far!

Dress for success: Make sure your profile looks just as nice as you would if you were attending a networking event. First impressions are everything and online is no different! Don’t make your profile picture a photo from tailgating last year where you cropped out your spouse. Take the time (and money) to get a professional photo taken.

Ask for recommendations: This is one very simple thing to do. Ask your clients/partners/co-workers to leave recommendations on your LinkedIn/Facebook/Yelp (whatever applies) about you or your business. Often people will visit your page and you don’t even know they are there. The best recommendation is a testimonial – so make sure your pages are stocked with information about all the great work you do.

Good luck! It’s not that scary – I promise, and the worst you will get is a no – which is the same as networking in person right? Go for it and tweet me @interactivekate to tell me how it’s going!


Networking works even when you're not sure how

Networking Often times, when we first meet someone, we're not sure how they can add value to our network or if we can add value to theirs.

There usually is no master plan.  There might not even be an immediate "ah ha, I know how he can help me" (or how I can help him).  Instead, there is the recognition that he/she is a person of character. 

Someone that we would find value in knowing. 

And sooner or later, we will be able to help each other.  We just stay connected

.  Networking isn't about spotting someone you can exploit.  It's about making connections with people you like and respect, knowing that eventually you'll be able to be of value

. Building your network is not a series of calculated moves and tactics.  It's staying open to possibilities.  It's helping first, knowing you'll be helped in return.

The message?  Don't sweat it if you aren't sure how a new connection will be of value.  Just stay in touch, offer help/connections where you can and have no fear.  Sooner or later, you'll both reap the benefits of this new relationship.

What is Yours is Ours

Networking I gave a presentation recently at PSIS.

I had a wonderful time and I've received awesome feedback from those who attended. (I've even got some feedback from others who weren't there) Another testament to a network?  I don't know.  It's a testament to the wonderful people that get up every day looking for ways to improve themselves and others.

As I reflect back and believe you me... I'm reflecting and refining as we speak! I can't get this thought out of my head... It's not MY network.  It's OUR network.

We live in an unbelievable community filled with unbelievable people, places & things.  The longer we spend cultivating each other, the quicker we will all achieve the successes we are seeking.

We Must Have Ridden the same Bus to School

Bus Over the years, I've come to the realization that there are several Central Iowans that possess an unbelievable amount of talent, passion, and desire to create success in all aspects of their lives.

Sometimes, when I listen to them talk, I realize how similar our views are and how we seem to have grown up learning the same life lessons.

I've decided to do a short profile on one of those Iowans because during a coffee, his message really hit home.

Adam Carroll is the definition of an entrepreneur, but he also has a keen understanding the role of networking.  He has written a book and currently owns a mortgage company and financial education business.

That being said, as we had coffee I was discussing the presentation I have at Professional Solutions Insurance Services on the 20th.

He perked up and said, "POWER... Promoting Opportunities While Establishing Relationships; done right can lead to Profiting On What Everyone Refers."

And if you've had coffee with me before, you know that I said, "Interesting..."

Adam is right.  We as business people need to think in terms of providing connections to others that increase their chances for success.  If they aren't successful, the odds of success coming back to us are decreased.

Avoid A Stagnant Network

Team In my opinion, a network is only as strong as the depth of the people that are connected within it. 

By this, I mean that when you are in a situation that calls for an industry expert and your list of "go-to's" are not available; it is wise to have others in your network you know can pick up the slack.  That is why I'm firm believer in continuous networking even when you believe your network is complete/solid/strong enough.

In my line of work, I don't force a business owner to use any particular person in my network.  As a matter of fact, in any industry at any given time, I may have a list of 5 - 10 experts that I suggest the business owner choose from. 

These are usually based on the scope, price and most importantly the 'personality' of the situation.  How deep is your network?

If I stop adding to my networking list... I'm letting my network become stagnant.  With a stagnant network the odds of having the proper industry expert for a situation decrease.  Once your connections within your network decrease, you may be experiencing a failing network.  This is a common problem but one that can be fixed nonetheless.   

Networking Continues to Gain Momentum

Network Amanda Ripp of the Business Record wrote a wonderful article on the changes that our area is making in regards to networking. (View Here)

I happen to know each of the organizers of the networking groups referenced in the article.  They all recognize the need for relationships and see the value in making time to meet face to face.  Many of the meetings don't recognize an immediate output, but they all lay the ground work for future success.

Keep up the great work Central Iowa.  I'm excited to see us gaining momentum.

Who Is Maintaining Your Network?

Connected A business is only as good as the people it employs... we've all heard it and most likely experienced situations that support that statement.

I'm going to change the statement slightly and say, 'A business is only as good as the network that its employees can maintain.'

My reasoning is fairly transparent.  If a business spends the majority of it's monetary resources on creating an image that portrays today's 'buzz words' but doesn't support those words within its people... why spend the money?

In today's marketplace, business is done through relationships and relationship building. 

Some of these relationships are 'time-tested', some continue to evolve, some are still in the discovery stage.  My point is... If you or your employees cannot maintain a network with those around you, then it may be wise to re-look at the focus of the image you are trying to portray.

Access Your Network for Results

Netework I often hear the question, "When should I use my network?"

My first reaction is to try and shift the tone of the question too 'When should you access your network?'

The fact of the matter is, that we build networks for a purpose and that purpose should be to produce output.  I like to call it economic output.  If we aren't accessing our networks to produce economic output, then our networks may be static.  Here are 3 times to consider accessing your network:

  • When you know (or even think) you can introduce someone into your network and cause success for them.  Success can be measured in many ways.
  • When you need to 'vet' an idea to determine its validity in the marketplace. Vetting can lead to time/cost/relationship savings.
  • When you meet someone that is exiting a corporate job and wants to get plugged into a more private sector world.  In a world of seemingly increasing corporate lay-offs, it is important to provide a relationship net for those in need of new opportunity.

Of course there are several other times to access your network, but start small and begin to plant seeds within your network to produce economic results.

Be A Relationship Farmer

Farmer Have you ever caught yourself asking the question... "What value does this person bring me?"  If so, you're not alone.  It's very normal but may not be the best way approach a networking situation.

As a networker/collaborator/business development/salesperson, I believe that is important to operate on the "you just never know" principle. 

Often times, the people you meet aren't the direct contacts into sales opportunities for your organization.  As a matter of fact, the real opportunities lie layers deep and can only be reached through strong relationships.

We must work very hard to develop and nurture the relationships around us before scratching someone off your list.  As my good friend Richard Rowe says, "Networking is farming. Not hunting."

Concentrate on growing your relationships rather than monetizing them and your sales yields will grow.

Oh yeah... Happy Thanksgiving! 

Social Event Networking

Handshake Over the past 3 years, I've heard or seen just about every type of networking event imaginable.  I've also been asked just about every question revolving around networking imaginable.  One of the top questions I hear is "How do you get business from social events?"

My response is usually something like this: When you're participating in a social event, the odds of you developing an instant relationship that translates into business are slim to none.  That's not to say it won't happen, but your odds will be increased if you take the initiative to set up a coffee or lunch within the upcoming weeks.  In that follow up conversation get to know them more intimately and find out what resources you possess that could fill a void with their needs, both personal and/or professional.

After all, in a business world that is shifting and changing faster than most can blink... it's important to have a relationship based on the person rather than your product.  Your products may change but it's what you possess as a person that should remain constant.

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